Time with Afi

This not exactly a guide but it would give you some pointers to what you can do if you really want to help someone who has lost someone really dear. 7 Cardinal Rules. 1. Please avoid the cliches. They are so empty it just bounces off. Remember that the person is going through a lot of pain at the time. If you have nothing to say that feels right, please keep quiet. Your presence alone is appreciated. 2. Bear in mind that the person had had to tell so many people what happened so please don't ask what happened on the phone unless of course, the person tells you voluntarily. If you are with the person, that should be fine but you should be careful not to worsen the situation. 3. If you have not lost anyone so dear to you, please you cannot understand what it means to lose a loved one. Don't go and tell the person that "God giveth and God taketh". It is very annoying in spite of your good intentions. Rather pray with the person for strength.  4. If you know you...

I mean I know people die. I know that death is inevitable. I have attended funerals and seen corpses before but never did I imagine it would feel like this when I first heard my Dada had passed on. He was not sick or anything. His death was a freak accident and he was gone without a good bye. I lost my Dada. When I was first told the news, I was in a state of shock and numbed.   Could it be possible that my Dada is actually dead? I said no, I wanted to go and see him at the mortuary but I was advised against it. Kojo said "Trust me Emelia, you don't want to see your dad that way, keep and cherish the memories you have". So I did not go till the Friday when he was brought in. When I saw my dad, I was shocked, my first thought was "this cannot be my Dada" but indeed it was him. He had changed a lot but it was him. I always have heard that losing a loved one, someone really close to you and who you cared for deeply is terrible.  Trust ...